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My Hot Girl Summer....

The hashtag “hot girl summer” was created by Meg aka Megan thee Stallion. Due to the fact I’m in my early thirties and still keep any music from the late 80s to the early 2000s on repeat as if it just came out, I’m completely out the loop on knowing who sis is really. I do however love the hashtag and the whole movement women have been doing this summer. They are completely living and loving the skin they are in now.

Almost every chica IG page is poppin with a catchy caption followed by the hashtag hot girl summer. Of course with anything liberating online, here comes the haters. Mostly men saying how we need to focus on x,y, and z instead of having a HGS. That is bull crap and I will not stand for it…AT ALL.

This year I made the hard decision to live below my means. I’m planning and saving for two big purchases the beginning on 2020. So I did not have a lot of trips planned this year like I usually do. Taking my yearly trip to Miami was the BIG trip of the year for me. In order to prepare for this trip, I was going to workout, eat right, and try to lose these pesky 20 lbs. However, July hit and I was still holding on tight to the weight.

Knowing my trip was less than three weeks away, I decided to do something different. Embrace all my curves, tiger strips, and rolls for this vacation. If you read my book Her Buried Secrets you will know I battled with low self esteem when I was younger. Honestly, I have to constantly remind myself I’m baddie to reframe from that toxic mindset.

Instead of getting a bunch of coverups or one pieces to camouflage the weight I was holding. I ditch that idea and started to map out my vacation wardrobe.

I packed all my hot girl outfits I purchased last year from Fashion Nova. Yup, they still had tags on them and all. Why couldn’t I wear them again? Oh because my little belly fat…..naw I’m about to get my whole life this trip. Listen my whole wardrobe was short bodycon dresses, two pieces, and shorts. Who going to check me boo?

I’m so happy I decided to live my best hot girl summer life in Miami. I really fell completely in love with TSJ all over again. I finally stopped working towards trying to be perfect and started embracing where I am now in my weight loss journey.

Being a hot girl this summer was more mental than physical for me. I know, I know, Megan was like chase that bag and not worry about no man. I’m with that too sis. Listen, I’m all about building, wealth, and health.

I did post some thirst traps on my IG page too though. Listen forever a tease….

4 Ways To Start Living A Dope Life....

I’m currently writing my second book titled “You’re Not Okay, And That’s OKAY! The Ultimate Guide to Reinvent Your Happiness” , when I thought why not provide a cheat sheet for dope-ness.

Everyday in this world of adulthood we are face with different challenges that can potentially knock us down. I do not know about you but I have been so low in life that I thought about giving up. But GOD! His love for us is greater than what we have for ourselves. So let’s keep on pushing!

With all that being said, here your cheat sheet to start living a dope life….

  1. Keep God First

    This is pretty obvious, without Him in our life we are mess. Everyday, throughout the day, talk to him. Give thanks, give him praises, and just kick it with him. You have to make sure your relationship with Christ stays activate in order to live a dope life.

  2. Stop Overthinking Everything

    Just STOP! Go with that first thought and stop reading into every situation. This part will help you sleep well, become more present, and Mr. Anxiety will get his eviction papers. Are we always going to make the best decisions? Heck no! Good News… bad decisions are life lessons.

  3. Go For It!

    Whatever your “IT” is…do it NOW! Nothing is stopping you but YOU. Cliche’ right? But it is the truth. Everyone was born to do something impactful in this universe. Your passion is not only for you. Share it with the world. Start that business, go after that promotion, take that trip, quit your job, JUST DO IT!

  4. Do Not Forget to SMILE

Smiling is not to be confused with a fake smile. Nope, a genuine smile expressing your gratitude for being able to wake up. The fact you were given another day that was never promised to you. That type of smiling can kill any negative vibes INSTANTLY.

Now go ahead, start living your dope life…..

It's Been A Long Time.....I Needed To Leave You

It’s been about a year since I wrote my last blog post. Why? Well, I’m so glad you asked, I got STUCK. I polluted my mind into thinking that I did not have anything else worth sharing. However, I know that is farthest from the truth. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way before the villain of self sabotage takes over.

I FINALLY self-published my memoir last month. It was one of the biggest things I have done in my life. ‘Her Buried Secrets’, just like (the old blog site), is my baby. In my book I’m 1000% honest with the readers about my journey. If you have not purchased it, I’m letting you now get your cup because the tea is spilling hunni.

2019 has definitely been a year of new beginnings for me. I can say even though I’m terrified majority of the time, its still a roller coaster I’m enjoying.

I’m so happy I stepped away from blogging for a while. I needed to clear my mind and get back to the real TSJ. She needed to stand up and block her inner hater. So welcome back my old subbies and “hey gurl/boy” to my new ones.

Buckle up….its going to be an ahmazin ride.

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